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There are several potential benefits that sex has to offer to those who desire and enjoy it. The opposite is also true: engaging in sex when it is not desired or when it is non-consensual can increase stress, lower self-esteem, and adversely affect the body. Here are some of the benefits of sex according to current research:

1. Stronger immune system

IgA levels, essential to immune response to viral infection, is 30% higher in subjects who had sex 1–2 times per week, compared to those who were abstinent.

2. Better bladder control

Use it or lose it! Using your pelvic muscles maintains their contractility. …

It sucks, but it happens

Written by Miriam Tanenbaum

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If you’ve been in the dating world for any amount of time, chances are you’ve had some, shall we say… less than stellar experiences. And guess what, I’m just like you. I too have been scarred by the occasionally Ebolic cesspool of dating. Is “Ebolic” a word? When something is of Ebola? Shakespeare invented words too, you know. And William Shakespeare was also a lesbian Jew trying to figure out life and love in the big city. Am I relatable yet?

My “Date from Hell” is not so much a single date as it is instances from a myriad of them. In my experience, it’s rare that the entirety of the date is horrifying, and more that there is a moment or series of moments that ruin everything for everyone. That may not be the case for you, though. If you’ve had a date that is awful through and through, I hope you’ve at least managed to take some amount of enjoyment out of the awkwardness. That is true power. If you, by some minor miracle, have a date that actually goes well, you should exchange info on the Safely app. Or if that’s a bit far for now, check out some advice on how to kiss, right here. …

Bet you heard International Women’s Day and threw it in there with National Margarita Day, and all those other “holidays” we now celebrate by overindulging in our vice of choice.

But you’d be wrong, friend, because International Women’s Day originated in 1908 during the women’s suffrage movement. Fifteen thousand women marched for equality through the streets of New York City and, a year later, the Socialist Party of America declared National Women’s Day. The international part came a few years later when Clara Zetkin suggested adoption of the day, to the unanimous agreement of women from 17 different countries, at the International Conference of Working Women.

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Women march in the streets of NYC for equality

By 1975, the UN officially recognized the holiday, eventually choosing an annual theme. This year’s theme, “Think equal, build smart, innovate for change,” particularly resonates with the gang over here at SAFE Group. In their statement, the UN says, “we look to industry leaders, game-changing startups, social entrepreneurs, gender equality activists, and women innovators to examine the ways in which innovations can remove barriers and accelerate progress for gender equality, encourage investment in gender-responsive social systems, and build services and infrastructure that meet the needs of women and girls.” …

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What IS sex?

Conventional definition:

Most definitions, and certainly the most widely accepted, define intercourse as “sexual contact between individuals involving penetration, especially the insertion of a man’s erect penis into a woman’s vagina, typically culminating in orgasm and the ejaculation of semen.”

This definition comes from Google’s Dictionary. Some variations of this definition can be found in the Oxford Dictionary, Merriam-Webster Dictionary, and in many definitions in the Urban Dictionary. They are all similar in tone.

In addition to these exclusive definitions, there is a specific theory that aims to limit sexual expression called the Natural Law theory. The Natural Law theory holds that the God-given purpose of sex is procreation. It therefore rejects the notion of sex for the purpose of recreation or pleasure; and condemns sexual activity involving contraceptives, or between two people who are not Male and Female. …

Heterosexual and bisexual women only reach completion about 70% of the time.

Written by Bailey Brown

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Women are estimated to be 30-to-40% less likely to have an orgasm during sex than their male counterparts. According to a 2018 study performed by researchers at both Indiana University and Chapman University, heterosexual and bisexual women only reach completion about 70% of the time; whereas gay women reach completion 86% of the time, and men reach completion 95% of the time. The study hypothesizes that the orgasm deficit occurs because most women require clitoral stimulation, which is more difficult to achieve with traditional heterosexual sex. …

Here are some common signs and symptoms to look out for

Written by Miriam Tanenbaum

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So you have a vagina. Congratulations! And you may have a yeast infection. Less congratulations. While it is possible for people with penises to get yeast infections, for the purposes of this article, we’ll be focusing on infections of the both yeast and vaginal variety. Coincidentally, “Vaginal Variety” is what I’m calling my new SNL-style sketch show, coming absolutely nowhere this fall.

A common symptom of a yeast infection is that your vagina becomes an itchy wasteland.

There’s a party in your pants, and discomfort is invited. There is an itch you can’t scratch, because it’s inside of your vagina. Walking feels wrong, sitting feels wrong, standing feels wrong. It’s all wrong. “It,” of course, being your pH levels. Step aside, Pennywise, the true horror movie villain is here, and it’s equally emotionally scarring. If your vagina or vulva are itchy or irritated, that’s a sign that there’s a problem and you should get in touch with your gyno. …

Model divides individuals into 5 categories

Summary by Dr. Kenneth Fife

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Scientists at the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) have developed a model that identifies individuals at greatest risk of transmitting HIV, and helps to design strategies to reduce (and eventually eliminate) HIV transmission in the US.

Individuals infected with HIV were divided into 5 categories:

1) recently infected (> 3 months) and unaware of their infection status

2) chronically infected (>3 months) and unaware of their status

3) chronically infected and aware of their status, but not receiving care

4) chronically infected, in care, with detectable viral…

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Since September is Bisexual Awarness Month, we’re here to help you clear it up once and for all: what the heck is bisexuality and why can’t bi people just make up their mind already? Just kidding. Bisexuality is many things but it definitely isn’t a phase! Here’s a quick breakdown of the basics.

When someone is bisexual, it means that they are sexually attracted to two (or more) genders. Men can be bi, women can be bi, trans people can be bi, nonbinary people can be bi. Really, anybody can be bi! Pretty simple, right? For some reason, though, a lot of people are still in the dark about what bisexuality entails… and they ask a lot of questions. So let’s take a look at some of them in a quick game of two truths and a lie. …

You should know which STIs are transmittable through kissing

Written by Lynae Alida

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Yes, but kissing is a low-risk sexual behavior. Only certain STIs are transmittable through kissing. In order to understand your potential risk with different sexual activities, you need to know how infections in each category are spread. STIs are organized into three categories:

  • Parasitic infections — such as trichomoniasis, scabies, and pubic lice (crabs)
  • Bacterial infections — such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis
  • Viral infections — such as HPV, HIV, and herpes

Can I get parasitic infections from kissing? No.

Can I get bacterial infections from kissing? Maybe, but maybe not. There is some research to suggest that bacterial infections such as syphilis and gonorrhea can be spread through open-mouth (deep/French) kissing, but there is not enough data to safely draw this conclusion. These studies are difficult to interpret, because it’s hard to know for sure if the participants are abstaining from other intimate behaviors (like oral or penetrative sex). …

“Why should it be any more shameful to catch an infection from sex than it is from shaking hands, a kiss or being coughed upon?” Dr. Jen Gunter, OBGYN

We are living in COVID times, and suddenly everyone is an expert on disease transmission, but somehow collectively we are still woefully uninformed about sexual health. Why is there such a wide information gap when it comes to STIs? Quick answer, stigma and shame. Sex has been considered a taboo for centuries, and as a result comprehensive and inclusive sex ed isn’t being taught in schools across the US.

Enjoying sex and/or having multiple partners doesn’t make you “slutty” or “bad”

The most important thing about sex is consent. Do you want to have sex? Do they want to have sex with you? …


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